Will Boot Camp: CHAPTER 2

 

 

CHAPTER 2

 

The Road to Transcendence

 

Definition of transcend:

a: to rise above or go beyond the limits of.

b: to triumph over the negative or restrictive aspects of: OVERCOME.

 

To triumph; to rise above—that is what to transcend means, to rise above all adversity and obstacles that we encounter, to triumph where others have been vanquished. It means to abandon the ordinary and become extraordinary and to become a beacon that stands out and serves as a guiding post to help others find their direction.

 

Right now these words might sound far and distant, almost faint, if not unintelligible and comical, that is because they are concepts that we inadvertently or consciously have avoided, by not committing to situations that required us to get out of our comfort zones. But judging from the fact that you picked up this book, you still have that desire to TRIUMPH, to RISE ABOVE to TRANSCEND. It is one step towards a change the will take you in a new direction, which you WILL NOT regeret.

            Realizing our shortcomings is the first step to improvement; initiative to effect a change in our lives, is the decisive step to change; of course some things do not happen overnight, but the decision to change our lives DOES; the rest, thereon, is a process that depends only on your disposition and constancy to complete it.

            You will go through the different phases of the program, each one necessary to maturate and enhance that resolution, which will begin to crack that cocoon you have been living in and break free of the walls that enclosed you in such detrimental state of existence.

Your WILL, at this moment, might seem feeble; just like the strength of a recruit is undeveloped or underdeveloped when he arrive to basic training, but which is potentiated as he gradually makes his way through, until he successfully completes the course and becomes fit for battle; just the very same way, your WILLPOWER will be much more defined once you successfully and properly complete our exercises, your goals will be more clearly established and your perspective about life will be substantially different. 

 

Have you ever risen above?

It doesn’t matter how mundane or inane your life might have been in the past, but we all have achieved something or excelled at something, which maybe you or others might’ve not have value much, but that it was something you or someone else felt good about; something you did that made you the center of attention. WE all have had our moments of glory; we just didn’t make it last long enough to become a habit.

We all have applied ourselves at one point or another, all of us had our reasons; some of us because we wanted to impress; some because we wanted to gain something and others out sheer pride.

We all move out of a certain motivation, things that catapult us to act where normally would not; these are our motivations to act.

 

Exercise 2

Come up with 7 occasions where you have RISEN ABOVE, where you experienced TRIUMPH; where you went beyond your self-induced maggot status; when actually you MADE a true effort.

 

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Do you think this makes you a winner? Yes____   No____

                                      

You see, you were not always a loser or an underachiever, you just unwittingly chose to accept the idea that you were one.

 

Write what inspired you the most to rise above in those situations you’ve just mentioned. What drove you to pull through?

 

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SELF DEPRECATION, DO NOT PRACTICE

 

“Don’t let anyone to persuade you by word or deed to do or say whatever is not best for you.”

                                        —Pythagoras

 

The undeniable truth is that life is a fierce competition and that nothing will come to you just by sitting down to wait for that to happen. We live in a world that’s a den of lions and sharks; whoever has the sharpest teeth and wider mouth gets the biggest chunk, and to compete for that chunk the only thing you have to do is sharpen the teeth you’ve already got and open wide that big mouth of yours; you don’t need special skills; a twelve-year education degree, nor do you need to be a sack of knowledge to be SUCCESSFUL —and I am not denigrating the importance of education, skills and knowledge, not at all! Education gives you an edge over those that don’t have it, so do skills and knowledge, but WILL is imperative: a must—it gives birth to all the other qualities needed to succeed, without WILL nothing can be done, one thing that can move a man to act and simulate WILL is fear to punishment, and no one is going to punish you for not succeeding.

 

            We have heard how people criticize other people for wasting their talents, squandering their fortunes; how they, even humorously, they spit their venomous and malicious comments about people the know, who could have been more and never got to be it. That’s absolutely understandable, people like that need to see people that are feeling down in order to feel superior, but when all that deprecation comes from yourself—that’s insane!

Self-deprecation is not something that you should take lightly nor entertain; at best it is humorous to other people, but it erodes your confidence inch by inch, and prepares your mind to accept what the idea suggests. It becomes a habit and serves as reinforcement for underlying negative thoughts that affect your behavior and your perception of the world. It is understandable that others might fire at you, but you, firing at yourself? —how senseless is that?

The more you repeat that idea, the more your mind is going to veer you off towards that behavior. Remember, your mind accepts what you feed to it; you feed it constructive ideas; it will accept those ideas, giving origin to belief, and it will act according to the essence of those ideas; you feed it destructive ideas; it will take them as its programming, and it will walk towards that path.

YOU ARE A WINNER! YOU ARE SUCCESSFUL!... YOU BECAME SUCCESSFUL THE MOMENT YOU PICKED UP THIS BOOK AND YOU WANT TO BECOME MORE SUCCESSFUL.

 

DISCIPLINARY 3

If you answered NO, to the question above, here is a reminder for you:  21!

 

                                  I ALWAYS speak in MY FAVOR   X21

                                  I am a WINNER                             X21

 

YOU ARE NEVER, EVER, EVER…to admit defeat or speak against yourself! That’s an order!

IS THAT UNDERSTOOD? _______________ ( say it LOUD)

 

 

Every human being that is alive, and that has ever lived, is a WINNER, our first accomplishment is winning a battle against over 300 million of our own kind, and believe me, THAT IN ITS ESSENCE is a miracle.

   Every day you stay alive, you win; every time you learn, you win; every time you lose, you WIN, because you gain experience and learn how not to do it.

 

Life is a win-win kind of situation; defeat is just defeat when you don’t learn anything from it and you choose to accept it as such.

The Prussian army was one of the finest armies the world has ever seen, yet it was defeated by the amateur army of Napoleon in 1806 at the battle of Jena, but they learned from their mistakes and put together a new training to ensure that what led to its defeat did not happen again; armed with a strategy and charged again, to later taste the sweet nectar of victory.

Learn from your losses, from the things that did not turn out the way you expected, and use them to gain insight from the experience lived—why look at them in a negative light? What good does that do?. Once you do that, there is very little that can constitute an obstacle to you. That is all that lies between defeat and victory, resilience, new strategy and charge anew--it adds up to persistence.

 

You are an army—an army of one, but nonetheless an army, armies lose a battle and retreat, but to to regroup and come up with a better strategy to launch a better offensive, charged with resoluteness; that is how world powers have come about; that is how great men have come to being, because they are relentless in the pursuit of their objectives; they are not placated by fear, passions, feelings or adversity—they are intently focused on their goals. And that is what you will learn; you will to become your own hero, you will lean to be what YOU WANT to be—YOU will become your source of inspiration. You sought for happiness everywhere and you did not find it; you went places seeking wealth and you did not find it; wanted liberation from your torments and you didn’t find it. But here is a little story for you.

 

The Same Answer

A man on his way somewhere stopped at a village to rest a little bit, and to get some water from the village’s fountain. He ties his horse and goes to the fountain where there is a tiny old man sitting by.

The passerby takes his canteen and submerges it in the water to fill it, and he looks at the old man and asks:

—Hey! Do you live here?  To which the old man nods to.

—    And how are the people in this village?

The old man says,

—How are the people in your village?

—Oh! They were terrible, very difficult people to deal with. I will never go back there again!

The old man then said to the stranger,

—The same you will find here, said the old man.

—Really? I will never stay here then. I’d rather go somewhere else. Thank you!

He took his canteen fastened it to his horse, got on it and left.

 

Minutes later another traveler stops at the fountain to get some water for himself and his horse?

He looks at the old man and nods, the old man nods back, then the visitor approached the old man and asks:

—Hey! Do you live here? The old man nods yes.

—And how are people in this village?, asked, the old man sitting by the fountain.

—How are they where you come from?

Well, they were wonderful people, very friendly. It hurt me much to have had to leave.

The old man then says,

—The same kind of people you will find her.

The traveler’s eyes lit up with excitement and said,

—Well then I will stay here a few days and maybe I’ll find work and stay here.

He thanked the old man and left.

A person that was watching both scenes comes to the old man and asks:

—Why do you do that?

—What? The old man said

—How could you’ve given the same answer to two questions about two opposite situations?

Then, the old man replied,

—The people of the village were never the problem, it was what each had in his heart that made that difference.

 

You could go anywhere to find happiness but you won’t find it if you carry all you sorrows everywhere you go. You can go anywhere to find wealth, but you won’t find it…if you carry all your poor attitudes anywhere you go. You can go anywhere to find freedom, but you won’t find it...if you wear your chains everywhere you go, because all these things are ATTITUDE­-DEPENDENT, and it is the liberation of those attitudes that will open the doors for you to find what you are looking for.

Happiness begins from accepting it from within, and the acceptance of it is what makes us fit to be happy. But that acceptance has to come from a TRUE and HONEST acceptance of our selves; with ALL OUR MISTAKES, because it is for that love we have for the self that we begin to walk in the path of happiness, because we want the self to FEEL GOOD.

Wealth and opulence have to be accepted first, for if you do not do that, you will give just it up just as fast as you got it. You have to accept the fact that you were born to partake of these riches; you have to accept that you are just beginning to claim what you are ENTITLED to. Accept that you are not rich by chance, but by birth right, because every human being that has walked this earth has been born with that right.

Freedom, begin to claim it! Health? Begin to claim it! Wisdom? Love? Peace? CLAIM THEM ALL! Accept them! — Easy to say, huh?—ACCEPT CHANGE! STOP QUESTIONING that which is intended to do you WELL, because that questioning is just your DESTRUCTIVE SELF denying you that right, HOLDING YOU BACK—are you going to let it get its way?—NO! You accepted it partially when you took this book, now DIVE IN FULLY! And we will make sure YOUR MIND accepts ALL of these. We will work together to make that happen.

 

“You are a child, of the Universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here…”

                                    —Desiderata, Max Ehrmann

 

SPEAK IN YOUR FAVOR

 

To begin to accept what you are entitled to, you HAVE TO begin to develop a habit of speaking in you favor; you HAVE TO begin to speak highly of yourself, not just merely making vacuous comments about yourself that no one gives a thought about; I am talking about comments that let people know about how serious you are.

Avoid sounding pompous, because instead they are going to thing that they lost you and begin to feel sorry for you. Make comments about yourself that are constructive and that show intent to accomplish, be or do what you are saying. People don’t like arrogance, and even an honest comment backed by truth can sound arrogant if not spoken in the right way. Make sure you tune your comments so that they sit well with your audience, where you words sound commensurate and as a step above of what THEY perceive your status is, but be honest, do not hide your improvements just because you are afraid of how others might perceive you.

If you are seeking to get rid of a bad habit, just say to them that you have realized how destructive your habit is and that you have come to your senses; speak of how you didn’t know you had this STRONG WILLPOWER and that today you realize, that you have this WILLINGNESS to take better care of yourself.

If you issue is money, always refer to your WILL TO GROW in that direction; don’t you ever refer to yourself as broke, impecunious, poor, indigent, penurious, necessitous, needy, etc. Instead tell people that you deserve better; don’t tell them you are rich, because obviously (in this case) you are not, and they are going to think you are nuts; in better terms, you can say that you HAVE THE POTENTIAL to be rich; that you caused brought upon yourself the present economic state in which you are presently living, but that that realization has driven you to act upon it and change it to your regain what you have always being missing.

Speaking in your favor will create that a habit that will reinforce and boost your self-esteem, and create a mental attitude that is oriented towards that which you desire to achieve.

So whenever your words are proffered to your detriment, please remember that speaking in YOUR FAVOR produces much better results and within a short span, enhances your self-confidence.

 

 

GRATITUDE

 

When you ACCEPT something that has been given to you, you begin to feel a certain feeling that feels like you want to do something that makes the person that just gave you something feel the same way you are feeling: that’s GRATITUDE.

And your gratitude will begin by feeling that gratitude towards someone that has given you the patience to stand it all; someone that has always been with you in your bad moments and the good ones as well; someone so special, that if it wasn’t for that person, you’d be finito: He/she is your strength, the one that is the center of your hopes and wishes—feels good to have someone like that, doesn’t it? A TRUE FRIEND: YOU!

No other person on this planet has been better to you than yourself. Sometime we neglect our “SELVES” and we hurt our selves, and though our selves are not grateful about this, our SELVES never leave us alone, and yet we can have some peace.

Feel gratitude towards your “self”, because there is no one in the world that would tolerate all the crap that you have put your self through and still be with you—you think it has been easy to stand YOU all those years? —just ask your SELF!

Feel the gratitude of having given YOUR SELF a NEW OPPORTUNITY to square up with yourself, for having granted the SELF with these moments of thoughtfulness in search of understanding to make it better for it.

Do you realize how much YOURSELF is loving you right know—feel it! Isn’t it lovely! Embark on the quest of the SELF, and discover which of the TWO SELVES you want to feed and make strong.

 

 

THE TWO SELVES

 

Story:  The Two Wolves

 

Once, an old Cherokee man was trying to teach his grandson a lesson for the future. He said:

—Son, life is a constant battle between two wolves. A black one, that feeds on hatred, envy, anger, worries, and sadness; and that the other, a white one that feeds on peace, love, understanding, happiness, and hope.

Then the grandson asks the old man,

—Grandpa, and which one wins the war?

To what the grandfather says,

—Whichever you feed the most?

 

You have two wolves living inside you, and there is a constant battle between the two; the one you feed the most, will win the battle. That is why from here on, you will dedicate your efforts to feeding the one that feeds on love, peace, happiness, so that this wolf overpowers the wolf that feeds on negative feelings and it is no longer raging inside you.

You have two selves in you: One that tells you, “No, don’t trouble yourself doing that, this is easier.” “Why, bother trying again?, it will be the same result.” “Nobody is going to listen to that idea; people are selfish.” This is the self you have to eliminate.

The other weaker self, says to you: “You can be happy,” “You can do it!” “Try it again, you will succeed” “Get out your seat and take charge!” But the rage of the “bad self” drowns the cries of the “GOOD SELF” and it does’t let you hear it, and that bad self dominates your actions because it feeds its rage to you thoughts. But that was until now, because from here on you WILL silence that self; you will starve it, until it is no more.

You will train and succeed at dominating those negative feelings and infusing your mind with positive thoughts and emotions that will resurface that shining spirit that you were born with.

I won’t lie to you and tell you it will be easy, at times you will want to quit, that is why we recommend you to have someone, other than yourself you make sure you perform your exercises SATISFACTORILY, but nonetheless you will find the fruits of your efforts inspiring—have you ever been so broke that you haven’t got a penny and the world looks gloomy, but then comes a break, and money comes to you, and all of a sudden the world looks much brighter and more cheerful? And this is not only with money, but with problems in general—that is how you will feel when you begin to see the change in spirits, your world will brighten up, then; you will transcend.

            Transcendence is a process that is achieved by accommodating your thoughts to work in harmony with your goals and your desires so that you can produce a change in your life, which can make your life much more satisfying. But to attain this level, one must learn to devise what is required to attain the desired goal`, doing so entails planning and a WILL to do it, we will help you with both.

Just like the military does not teach a soldier to fight a war, but it trains them with techniques and tools that they will need to fight in a war when the time comes; the same way, we will teach you so that when the time comes you can make your plans and fight effectively with the tools we have given you and adjust your strategy according to your individual goals using the tactics provided.

You have to be honest, here; we can’t be ungrateful and go out throughout life thinking life is a punisher and that we are its punching bags; a sadist that is out for us to have fun at the expense of our suffering—it isn’t so—Life is a blessing. It is understandable that you hold those views; self-inflicted suffering does that to people; it turns them bitter and they begin to blame external circumstances but that was the way you USED TO view life--not anymore. Life is a blessing, a cornucopia where abundance is waiting for those that are willing to go the distance to get it; for had it been right near us, our appreciation of it would have been very little.

If we go out throughout life focusing on the negative aspects of it, of the things we have gone through; we can become bitter and begin to fall into the abyss of self-pity. If we focus on the situations that didn’t end up the way we wanted, then we would become cynical and frustrated, not because we were unlucky and unhappy, but rather because we decide to create that perception of it by focusing on the negative only.

Winning is a perspective, you go to a casino and you lose money, did you lose? NO! You, did not. You gained experience, and one that could result a lot cheaper at the amount you just lost, because if you don’t learn from THE LESSON, then you will end up losing a lot more. WHAT’S THE PRICE OF EXPERIENCE?

You had a discussion with someone and you were arguing about a topic; you made a bet, no money or money doesn’t matter, you were defending a point, the other person was defending his, you guys decided to research the topic, and it ends up being that you were INCORRECT, did you lose? You might have lost the opportunity to exalt yourself over your opponent, but you WON MORE than he did.  You learned something new; he did not, THAT’S THE PRICE OF EXPERIENCE!

Do you take an orange and peel it to throw away the meat and keep the peel? They both are usable, but we keep the meat because it gives us more benefits. Experience, when it comes to results of our actions,                                                     is the meat of life; it is what makes our lives a lot easier and less susceptible to relapse in the same mistakes. Happiness is the joy of tasting the flavor of that meat, which gives us that sense of satisfaction of having tasted such a treat.

We cannot afford to entertain the thought of conceiving such detrimental of our lived experiences; such a cynical outlook would rob anyone of hope in a better tomorrow. We get up every day because we unconsciously know that there is more goodness in the world than there is evil. We don’t expect to get shot at every corner, or be run over at every street crossing; but many, unconsciously, develop tragic and pessimistic, thinking that life is a treacherous vixen that lures us into its arms to tear us to pieces. LIFE IS GOOD! …Be grateful!

 

Every day we live, every finger we have, every word we hear and say; everything we see and feel, every thought we get to retain…EVERYTHING WE KNOW, is a good reason to give THANKS…don’t wait till November.

 

 

EXERCISE 3

In the lines below, please write 7 things you are grateful for. Before you write them go to your Wise Man’s Spot and think about them. Remember, when we say THINK, we mean to feel, see and hear what is in your mind, if you can’t do that you are not really thinking.

 

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When in doubt and feeling low come to this page and convince yourself that you have a lot to fight for! 

 

 

 

 

EXPEL AND EXCEL

 

There are many walls; mine fields; enemy outposts that we have to go through before reaching the enemy’s garrison and taking over the post. You are not expected to perform at a Navy Seal level of efficiency, METAPHORICALLY SPEAKING, but you sure as hell are expected to give what a Nave Seal trainee gives: YOUR BEST, and even if you think you can’t YOU WILL.

The reason why we expect your best is because by pushing YOUR best out of you, and getting you used to doing so; YOU WILL eventually bring the best of what your best is AT THIS MOMENT, until your best is at its finest and it becomes a true best. But, as a neophyte, we don’t expect excellence from you, but we surely expect DEDICATION.

We ask for dedication as a solid base because we want to avoid laziness and complacency, just because you “did good.” Doing good does not mean that you made a habit out od excellence, it just mean that your actions for that specific task were satisfactory and nothing more. We don’t care about you “doing good,” we care about you DOING BETTER; if we do that and settle for your “good performance” you will feel complacent and will slack off…that’s a NO GO FOR US! …A NO GO FOR YOU, TOO!

Expect to be pushed, and you can be sure as hell that we expect you to push yourself as well. Remember that your objective here is to change your life; to develop the NECESSARY WILLPOWER so that you can apply the knowledge you have gathered from those wonderful books you have read to your life.

DO NOT LOSE SIGHT OF YOUR OBJECTIVE. There will be moments when it would appeal much more to sit down and not to do anything and just relax; that is when you DETECT AND INTERSECT an enemy. When you discover these weaknesses, THAT is when you have to DOUBLE UP on your viciousness by doing EXACTLY that which your body tell you not to do.

You will be lured by the enemy within yourself; an army of terrible feelings and desires that will be much easier to surrender to than to fight against, that is why it is very important to leave the enemy naked and exposed, to make it more obvious and vulnerable to attack.

Surrendering to procrastination and lassitude might feel comfortable and all, but do you realize how much you are giving up for doing so? If you do, I am sure that every time you feel you are laxing or procrastinating, you would feel DREAD, because it is a sign you are slipping back into that OLD SELF of yours, so FIGHT HARD AGAINST IT!

Once you pick up the habit of acting on your tasks and challenges at hand right there and then, assiduously, you won’t see a problem anymore, but just something you have to get out of the way. Begin with small things, like doing the dishes, keeping your house neat, doing your bed; then move on to more complex situations, like looking for opportunities and ideas in things that you see; thinking about business models; tackling fears, such as fear of speaking in public, etc.

Your goal is to OVERCOME those attitudes that tend to hold you back.

          

                                     Know Thyself

 

 

Learn to Want it

Wanting and WANTING

 

There is no human being on this planet that wants achieve something and hasn’t; if they have not, it is because they didn’t really WANT it.

The way we employ our language has inherited us certain disadvantages by subtracting meaning from certain concepts expressed by certain words.

We have learned to use certain words loosely, like LOVE, HATE…and WANT. These words convey very powerful concepts, yet we use then in such a vague manner, that “love” means no more than to like something, just a little more than usual; “hate” is equals to dislike, just a little more than usual. “Want” is just something you would like to have.

We have debased the value of those words. To WANT something when it comes to success, it means TO CRAVE it; there is NOTHING ELSE you’d rather have; it is either that or that, that is what to WANT something is like.

For the purpose of this training, we will refer to something we REALLY, REALLY want as WANT, which will apply to our GOALS,  to the things that are missing from our lives and which we would WANT to bring in.

 

 

 

WHAT DO YOU WANT?

 

People want money, fame, recognition, sex, love, health, happiness, peace of mind, power, freedom, etc…what is it that you want?

 

Money?

Money is a typical concern that many equate to success, though this is not generally true, for someone who does not have it, its acquisition would certainly become a type of success.

If money is your goal, what are you doing or what will you do to get it? Are you saving every penny you get to invest it? Do you stop to pick up a penny when you find one on the floor? Do you spend time thinking about ideas to create a business model or product that you can commercialize? Do you rather work to get some more money for your idea than go out to have fun? Are you doing all you can to get your first million?

These are traits of people who have achieved wealth, maybe you are a money waster, a fortune squanderer; maybe you have spent more money in your life that some millionaires have; maybe you are one of those that get $2000 and go barrow another $2000 to buy a TV; better yet, may be you get a million and you go to a casino or buy luxury cars—that is not what millionaires do! They invest their money, they grow their money, just like when you buy an tomatoes and get a few seeds to grow, from which you get more tomatoes which eventually give you more seeds.

Future millionaires don’t use their money to buy things to keep, they buy things to sell; they look around seeking opportunity to invest, to create something new or improve something that already exist­­—they take risks, not stupid risks, but calculated ones, that sometimes produce and sometimes don’t—but they don’t give up in the face of adverse results.

 

Here is an idea of what the attitude of those who WANT to be successful at any enterprise.

 

 

Everyone that has wanted or wants to be a millionaire, simply IS a millionaire, just like everyone that WANTS to breathe seeks the air, one who wants to be a millionaire makes it his business to achieve his goal by doing whatever it takes to achieve it.

For some this has been tougher than for others, but nevertheless they have ALL attained their goal, even those whose success depended on other people as well as on them, because they knew when to be submissive and when to be aggressive; they knew how to use people to achieve means.

 

This concept does not only apply to money, it applies to relationships, to personal development, to EVERYTHING. Who has not had a girlfriend or a sentimental attachment to a girl for which we didn’t do the impossible in order to see her? What lazy child didn’t do his chores in a flash of a second, that seemed humanly impossible, just to earn his permission to go play baseball with his friends at the park?  There was a drive there that, even though it was automatic and unconscious, is the same drive that drives a person that wants to be a millionaire to seek ways to make his millions. We all had that natural drive, but we sunk it to the bottom and drowned it in a ocean of easy choices, self-indulgence, complacency and over-all emotional and presumed physical comfort. We learned to accept the casual and weak meaning of what WANTING means, and it adapted the casual definition of an every-day occurrence.

 

SOCRATES AND HIS PUPIL

 

There once was an eager student who wanted to gain wisdom and insight. He went to the wisest man in town to seek his counsel. Being a man of few words, Socrates chose not to speak, but to illustrate. He took the young man to the beach and, with all of his clothes still on, walked straight out into the water. The pupil gingerly followed and walked into the sea, joining Socrates where the water was just below their chins. Without saying a word, Socrates reached out and put his hands on the young man’s shoulders. Looking deep into his student’s eyes, Socrates pushed the student’s head under the water with all his might. A struggle ensued, and just before life was taken away, Socrates released his captive. The boy raced to the surface and, gasping for air and choking from the salt water, looked around for Socrates, ‘Why did you try to kill me?’ The wise man calmly retorted with a question of his own: ‘Boy, when you were underneath the water, not sure if you would live to see another day, what did you want more than anything in the world?’ The student took a few moments to reflect, then said, ‘I wanted to breathe.’ Socrates looked at the boy comfortingly and said, ‘Ah! When you want wisdom and insight as badly as you wanted to breathe, it is then that you shall have it.’”

 

Anybody that has failed did so because he wanted something; anybody that has succeeded did so because he WANTED something, there lies the difference.

So, in order to differentiate when we WANT something from when we would like something, we will make a convenient lexical adjustment. Since “want” to you is already so natural—and to the rest of the world, we are going to substitute it with WANT WITH… CAPITAL LETTERS.

Whenever you refer to something you SERIOUSLY WANT, just say “I WANT to lose weight WITH CAPITAL LETTERS.” If you’d like to create your own way of establishing the difference, by all means do so.

 

How to get someone to WANT something they want?

To get someone to develop the fervent desire for something they want, a person must be made conscious about why he thinks he HAS to have it. The person has to be convinced of the need; he has to tell people what he WANTS, tell them why he wants it, how he will achieve it, what he is DOING to achieve it; he has to hear himself say it. The person has to visualize himself what it feels like to have that thing he WANTS. He has to know that other people would want that, too, but that he, unlike others, is DOING something to get it.

VISUALIZE IT, LISTEN TO YOUR WORDS AS YOU SAY IT, FEEL THE EMOTION OF ACCHIEVING IT…REPEAT IT, REPEAT IT, REPEAT IT!

                                                                                   

     The love for certain things you enjoy doing, shows up as excellence when they are  put to the test.

            If you tell this TRUTH to yourself, enough times, while feeling that emotion and visualizing what you are saying. It is very important that you say it to people, every time you get a chance, because by doing so, you will feel more committed to your cause in order not to feel embarrassed by the statements you have made to them. But the fact that you don’t have the mean to achieve it doesn’t really matter—you will find them. You will see how your actions will all align towards that purpose, without you realizing how, when or why.

            You are a boat in an ocean, your WILL is your sail and your dreams are your winds. If you sails are good and the winds are strong, the boat cross the ocean and arrive to the intended destination—build strong sails in order to catch strong winds.

 

 

end of chapter 2